Saturday, September 24, 2016, AM | Leave Comment
Change is the only constant in life, but that doesn’t it make it any easier. Turning away from habits and charging into something new is frightening, difficult, and exhausting.
There is a reason why we all hate change. However, in order to learn, grow, and improve we have to be willing to change.
Everyone has something that they would like to do if they only had the motivation — lose a few pounds, eat healthier, be kinder to themselves, etc. — but few people ever get around to making these changes.
If you’d like to finally motivate yourself to change your life, here are 6 simple things that will help you do just that.
Change Your Mindset
The first thing that you need to do is to change your mindset.
If you try to change because you’re supposed to, because other people want you to, or because you’re forced to, the change will only be superficial, frustrating, and quite the challenge.
However, if you tell yourself that you want to change, you will find the motivation to do so.
Change the way that you think about the change by finding the good in it.
For example, if you are trying to lose weight, tell yourself that you want to be healthy and fit rather than you know that you should lose weight so you’ll just try out a diet (we all know how that works out).
Look to the Future
Change is often difficult because we focus on what we are leaving behind.
It is too easy to look back to what we used to have and how things used to be that we miss the opportunity to grow.
Time has the tendency to turn memories into nostalgia if we’re not careful.
It is important to focus on what you will gain through your change rather than what you will have to give up.
Learn how to become excited about the opportunities that await on your new adventures.
Whether you are trying to lose weight, give up an addiction, moving to a new place, or starting a new job, great up reward system to congratulate yourself on your hard work.
Break down your goals into smaller milestones, and then set up a series of rewards to help you continue along the path of change.
These rewards don’t need to be anything big, even something as small as a candy bar or an episode of your favorite TV show will do (this blog suggests listening to music when you get discouraged!).
Find something that works for you and use it to your advantage.
Create a Dream Board
If you can visually see where you want to be, you will be more motivated to achieve your goals.
Cut out photos from magazines, print pictures off of the Internet, write words and phrases (such as your ideal weight), and put them somewhere that you will see them every day.
It may also be helpful to put reminders where you will be tempted the most.
For example, if you want to save up enough money to travel to Europe, make a photo collage to place on your bathroom mirror, and then put a small sticky note that says “Europe” on your credit card to help you spend less.
It is always more difficult to change if you are alone. Share your goals with your friends, coworkers, family, etc. so that they can help you stay motivated and strong even in times of weakness.
If possible, set goals with family and friends so that you can hold each other accountable.
In fact, having a group to support you is so beneficial that many recovery groups include group therapy as part of their programs.
“Rome wasn’t built in a day,” and nor will you be. You need to be patient with yourself as you seek to change.
You will slip up sometimes and feel discouraged others. That is completely normal.
Don’t quit if you can’t figure everything out right away, or if the adjustment is more difficult than you were expecting.
Change takes time. You can do it.
Talk to yourself as if you were talking to a good friend, with kindness and encouragement.
Give it a little time, and you will find that you can accomplish anything.